Imagine you’re standing on a stage looking out at the rows and rows of people in front of you. In your life, the people who are closest to you are in what I call your front row.
I’ve taught hundreds of people what I call the front row exercise.
It’s about making sure that the only people who are in the “front row” of your life – meaning those you spend the most amount of time with – are people whose advice you welcome, you know they believe in you and encourage you, and they’re maybe even a little bit further along in their personal and professional journey than where you’re are at this time.
These are the people who you can rank as your 9s and 10s out of 10. They are the people you just love being around because they lift you up as they rise.
Getting to know your front row
The questions I am asked most when clients participate in this exercise are:
- What do I do if I don’t have the right people in the front row of my life?
- How do I move people out of my front row?
- Where do I find the right people to fill up my front row?
Make it a 10
So, I want to provide you some clear steps you can take to make sure that you only have 9s and 10s in your front row from here on in.
- You have to first be the person that you want in the front row. If you aren’t that person, you’re not going to be able to attract the kind of people you’re hoping to attract. So, I suggest making a list of all the characteristics of the ideal person that you would love to have in that front row. What do they value? What do they spend their time doing? What are their core values? How successful are they? How loving are they? Once you determine those key attributes, you’ll be able to apply them to yourself and find them in others.
- You need to put yourself in situations where you’ll find these people. While a lot of times you do hang around people who are loving, amazing people, they may not be the people that you aspire to be or want to emulate. So, you must be open to getting in front of more of these kinds of people.
- Just ask. If you know someone who really fits the criteria of who you want to become and who you want to surround yourself with, ask them to be in your front row to serve as a mentor or an advisor to you. There’s truly no harm or shame in asking. I think a lot of people are afraid to ask because they’re intimidated, or they think the potential mentor is too busy or wouldn’t be interested in helping them…that whole why would they bother with me? story that people tell themselves. But you can’t get what you want if you don’t ask for it!
Creating a front row full of 9s and 10s takes work and it won’t happen overnight. But as you step into the person you want to be, you’ll see that your front row mirrors who you have become.
If you’re ready to work on becoming that person and honing your skills as a leader at home and in your career, I invite you to join me May 18th at the Vision to Leadership workshop.
Click here to register today: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/vision-to-leadership-tickets-151235269763
Vision is victory,