If you have been following me for awhile you may have learned these things about me:
*I was married for almost 30 years (and we dated for 5 years before we married)
*My husband and I raised two amazing children
*I have built two different business models over the past 26 years
*In the past 5 years I have lost both my husband and my son to suicide
I think it would be fair for me to say and have you agree that I have been through some adversity and ‘obstacles’. I am certain that most of you have been through some of these roles and things in your own life as well, so you know that none of them came easy.
Life just comes with stuff.
In light of losing my husband and son a lot of people have been asking me and my daughter how we have lived through all of this and are able to keep moving forward with our lives…
First step and short answer: It’s a choice we work to make every single day as to how we are choosing to see things. Even shorter answer: PERSPECTIVE.
Here’s the thing: There is ALWAYS going to be adversity in life, but YOU have the freedom to choose what you create to be free from your own ‘obstacles’.
Whether it’s moving through long relationships, career/business involvement, raising up other humans, or handling a loss or tragedy. How you view things and where you place blame for what you perceive to be outside of your control is 100% up to you. It is not only common for most of us to do this, it’s expected. It is extremely rare to have a conversation where we don’t talk about the bad and sad stuff, and we actually validate each other in it to feel better about ourselves. Hear me on this; I am not saying that we don’t all need compassion when going through something really hard, because of course we do. I am talking about the day to day repeated and tired conversations just to vent to one another.
So, how I strive to get through things is to understand and own this: I am not my circumstances, I AM my only obstacle.
Every single time I chose to see an obstacle as something I could not control and place blame, it usually never resolved itself. That’s how I stayed stuck so many times, my friends. When I learned and still apply looking at what is happening as something in which I can choose my perspective I personally grow, which keeps me inspired and hopefully is helping others do the same. Which is what we ALL want!
I challenge all of us this week to see every ‘obstacle’ as simply a reflection of something we can change within ourselves and watch the magic happen!
Keep Looking Up
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“Keep Looking Up” is scheduled for release on November 11th, 2019.